It’s never easy to approach someone. Even if you’re convinced that the feeling is mutual, you know that things would get ridiculously awkward if for some reason you turn out to have been horribly wrong. Then there’s the matter of how long should you wait before you ‘go for it’. After all, there is always that crushing blow when you realize that though your feelings are as red hot as they were when you first met, you’ve been parked in the ‘friend zone’. You sit listening to him rant about the girls who are doing nothing but slaughtering his ‘heart’ while you pat him on the back and say ‘well she’s out there for yah, you just haven’t met her yet!’ (Dammit I’m right here)
In these times, there’s nothing wrong with a woman grabbing the reins and making the first move. If they are anything like me then their rationale would be that there’s no need to waste time. You either like me or you don’t so let’s get it over with and not assume. Unfortunately, I learned that the hard way. It was a long time ago but I remember it vividly; I wrote a poem about him. (Check out my blog here
) We had a beautiful friendship complete with hours spent talking about the most random of things. To the outside world it was ‘official’ but for us, it remained unsaid. When I finally got the guts to say something, to my dismay I was too late. (Imagine that) Even now I still think about him (which is why at 12:56 a.m. I was up writing this post) and wondering ‘what if’. Oh Well!!! I learned from that mistake.
My point is really, if you have something to say, just go right ahead and get it off your chest. There may never be a ‘right enough time’ but ensure that it’s an appropriate setting. Above all, be confident and sincere. It’s a scary thought venturing into the unknown but at the end of the day though “it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, is far worse to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel” or something like that…..